The young working couples of today seem to have it all — the abundance and the luxuries, the attitude, and whatever they desire. However, all of this comes at a certain cost — stress and having no time for each other.
The millennials these days lead hectic lifestyles as they work in different shifts, travel a lot for work, and are always on-the-move. This gives rise to various challenges – be it keeping your relationship alive with your partner, maintaining a work-life balance, taking care of your health, and even planning a baby. You might think: It’s anyways hard for the egg and sperm to meet but imagine, how tougher it would be when both you and your partner are mostly busy with your work and are often travelling. So, how can you conceive or get pregnant if both you and your partner travel a lot for work and hardly stay with each other?
But don’t get disheartened. The good news is that there are ways to handle this too. With just some planning, you could time your meeting with your partner to coincide with your window of opportunity – yes, your fertile period. The best time to conceive or get pregnant is about three to five days before ovulation. Because the sperm can survive for several days inside a woman’s uterus, they’ll be ready and anticipating the egg when it comes.
To figure out your ovulation date, you must first start tracking your periods. In simple words, ovulation means when the egg is released from your ovary, which usually occurs about midway through your menstrual cycle, and Day 1 of the cycle is actually the first day of your period. Generally, women have a 28-day cycle (but it could vary from 23 to 35 days). So, it’s advisable to try and plan to be home or maybe visit your partner or vice versa during your fertile window. Or, if either of you could change your travel plans to fit in some leisure time when you have your fertile window too, then it would be perfect.
If you want to be further sure of your day of ovulation, you can check your temperature every morning. Just a few days before that midway mark, you should start checking your basal body temperature (BBT) using a thermometer. Just after the ovulation starts, your temperature rises about a degree, though you will not notice or feel it. Keep a note of the day your temperature rises; and about three to five days before this is when you would be most fertile. So, for the next cycle, you can plan for a romantic vacation or rendezvous on that particular day or time the month, even if it’s a quick getaway.
It’s also worth flying down in to meet your partner, even if just for a night. Sounds like a lot to organize and manage? But believe it; the results could be what you’ve been hoping for.
However, life isn’t that easy. You might be working a usual nine to six weekday grind, but your partner might be working in a graveyard shift during the week and might be busy or travelling most weekends too. This surely can wreak havoc on your relationship and on your dreams of getting pregnant. But in every relationship, some amount of compromises are important, and especially when you want to plan a family, all your effort makes it worth it.
Obviously, the best thing which can be done is to try to work schedule that gives you both some time together. Remember, you can make it work if you have the right attitude and are ready for a few adjustments. So, here are some things that you could do:
Optimal utilization of the time you have together
There would be at least a few hours every week where neither of you would be sleeping and would be together. Ask yourself – Do you spend this time lazing on a couch in front of a TV screen, doing different chores, or in running errands? Stop doing that. First, make the most of whatever time you have together. Rewind and think of the time when you met. You wouldn’t waste such precious time with your lover by just lazing around or picking up groceries; would you?
Even if both of you keep travelling or have different work timings, every cloud has a silver lining. There’s a big chance that you both would get some holidays or vacation time each year together. So, what are you waiting for? Plan a vacation in that period and cherish that rare occasion together. Not only to get pregnant, who doesn’t like taking a break to recharge themselves and also their relationship?
Little things always matter
Even if you don’t see your partner mostly in a month or during a day, do little things that can make him or her feel special. You could write some cheesy romantic notes and stick it in their lunchbox, send naughty messages so that they are excited to meet you over the weekend, or help in some chore so that you both get some time together. These little things might seem small, but this is what adds up and nurtures your relationship.
So most importantly, remember that you can make it work, if you are determined to plan a baby and have a lovely family of your own.